45 Lessons in Life

i got a forwarded email from my dad. Yeah, he knows how to use email. It's one of those really beautiful presentation file with lots of nice pictures and soothing music as you flip through the slides. I can't share all those pictures, but nevertheless the message the email tried to bring was as beautiful as well. So i thought of sharing it with you. Enjoy.

1. Life isn't fair, but it is still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It is more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting from your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past, so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. Don't worry, God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood, but the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take NO for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare. Then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, "In five years, will this matter?"
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously, no one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it.
36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.
37. Your children gets only ONE childhood.
38. All that really matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside everyday. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, Get up, Dress up, Show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it is still a gift.


And there you have it. One of the longest, most nagging advice i've ever posted. Hope you enjoyed it.





ChiM

First Post of the Year

Well, 2009 didn't end too badly for me, and 2010 started in a very comfortable manner as well. Of course i'm trying to relate to all the good things that happened only, so that the law of attraction will function properly this new year.

So for 2010, i would like to make a wish and a list of resolution to complete. i wish my family, and friends will be healthy and happy all year round, and this is renewable next year so that my friends will renew their friendship contract with me ya.....hehe :D

In year 2010, i would love to complete the following:

1. Get a really nice Couple-Watch for SQ and myself.
2. Go on a honeymoon vacation to the beach for real, with SQ of course
3. Take mom & dad for the Penang trip i promised :P
4. Be more careful on the road, no more accidents.
5. Refrain from spending unnecessarily. No new phone, no new car, no new laptop.
6. Money saved from (5) will go to the *Bling-Bling* :D
7. Work harder smarter for the long-overdued-promotion the company owe me!
8. Realize that really romantic thingy i'm supposed to do this year. Shh....!!
9. Tune my body age back to the biological age it is supposed to be, if not younger.
10. Watch my words, watch my temper, watch myself!

Happy 2010~!!





ChiM

Bad Boyfriend

i think i'm a terrible boyfriend.

A couple of months ago, i was planning a short trip to Malacca with SQ. Just something to get away from work, a short holiday to relax and eat. Then the Singapore thingy came by and all plans changed. In the end, the Singapore thingy called short, so does the Malacca trip. Minus 10 mark here.

I was out the other day trying to get SQ a surprise Christmas gift, but she ended up finding out before i was able to buy the present. Spoiler! So in the end i didn't buy her anything for Christmas. Minus 10 mark again.

Then it's Christmas eve, and i thought, "Hey, let me take her out for dinner and after that we'll go to a present exchanging party with some colleagues of mine. That would be great!" We even went to a Japanese eating place, she love japanese food, and then the most bizarre thing happened. My tongue was swollen due to some allergic reaction to what i suspect to be a piece of contaminated tuna fish. Dinner spoiled! Minus 10 mark for me.

Then it was Chrismas day, we went dinner at one of her colleagues house. A steamboat dinner, and then a small present exchange before going home. When everything ended it was quite late. Should've offered to go home with her and spend the night at her place. Pamper her a bit more and tug her into bed. A foot massage would be good too. But i did none of those. Minus 10 marks here too.

Then it's boxing day. Didn't see her the whole day. She was running about checking her pharmacy thingy, and then after that her make-up class. Night time she fell sick. I only found out when she told me. She's at home, and i'm at my place. No chance to take care of her. Another 10 marks to minus here.

In just a couple of days, my boyfriend marks are deducted to almost half gone, and it may not be full to begin with. I may already failed as a good boyfriend if not on the verge of failing. Guess i need to begin 2010 in a better way for this relationship.





ChiM

In Loving Memory of Grandpa

On December 10th 2009, i lost my grandpa. i was at home asleep after a hectic work day, headache pounding inside my skull, when dad came into my room to break the news. i got up, changed and we all went to grandpa's place. He was 79 when he passed away.

His health has been deteriorating for the past few years, from being able to walk on 2 legs, to walking on 3 legs, before finally relying on the wheelchair to move around. He lost enormous weight, his skin brittle from old age, his once strong hands were no longer able to carry much force.

This year during his birthday, he refused to let us celebrate for him. When he was admitted into the hospital prior to that, he couldn't recognize me. From that time on, i had been very worried that the worst will come soon.

About a month ago, he was admitted into the hospital because his legs were swelling up. He was diabetic. A week after discharged, he was admitted into the hospital again for another problem. Upon diagnosis, his intestines are not doing its job and hence food is stucked inside rotting into toxic. The doctor performed an operation to unclog what was supposed to move out.

He went into coma since. When he woke up, he wasn't really conscious. He wasn't able to speak even though his eyes are open, and responding. Last week, we got a warning call #1 from the hospital on the possibility that grandpa will not make it. All of us rushed to the hospital fearing the worst.

He was on life support, relying on a machine to breath, on drugs to run the heart. The doctor's prognosis says his condition might be due to the internal organ has already started failing because his intestine started clogging again.

The day before he left, mom was with him, so were my uncles. His condition was terrible. Yellow liquid were oozing out from his arms and legs, so much that the bandages around his arms and legs were soaked.

At 1045pm, he was relieved of his suffering.

The whole weekend was filled with prayers and ceremonies. Everyone came back, uncles & aunties as far as from Medan, cousins, friends and relatives. Amidst the sad news, it's also a happy thing to see how strong the family bond still is.

This morning, the cremation ceremony took place. It wasn't really a good sight to see, knowing the fact that this really is the last time we will be seeing this man, the person we all grow up with, a father, a grandfather, a friend. i'm sure grandpa will not worry about us, we all know how to take care of ourselves now.





ChiM

Being Around

Well, i guess it's official. i'm going to hang around ipoh for a longer time than i thought. Changed the plan of going Singapore for the job, don't ask why.

Well, i guess i could continue all those plans i have if i were to stay on with what i have. Perhaps i should put them into one of those resolution list, something to remind myself of the things i need to accomplish next year.

We're going to see about that, ok?




ChiM